A huge concern for brides and grooms regarding their wedding day is that their reception is spectacular, which is something not easily accomplished without knowing how to plan a wedding. Actually, couples say that they want people to get their boogie on, but in reality, as long as their guests have a blast, they will consider their wedding party a big winner, even though not everyone danced. Here are ten unusual but basic wedding day downers that most newly engaged people, wedding consultants, site and catering people, and more never think about. No more than several might not apply to the upcoming celebration in your life, but I have a feeling the majority will ring true.
Dinner is just…dinner.
If your invitees are engaged in lively conversation, and having a blast during the meal, you should be fine. If not, your energy in the crowd is at a 2 out of ten and then when it’s time for everyone to start dancing at level 10, they can’t make that jump. You’ll need to do something fun and engaging to get the buzz going in the wedding hall so when dancing sets out, the wedding guests are ready to rock. I want your wedding to go to an eleven! Ask your deejay for some ideas that are interactive that you can do or go to Wedding Planning/Wedding Songs if you need some suggestions.
The bar is not in the reception hall.
This one is not one you’d consider an issue, but it definitely will have a will have a consequence on your celebration, which is why I list it in this top 10. A lot of engaged couples think having their bar outside on the terrace or in the vestibule, or in some situations, way off the beaten path someplace, is a great idea because their guests can take a break from the reception room to go have a cocktail. The issue they don’t see is quite a few of your guests will be out of the room ordering up shots of booze at potentially essential times like the blessing, father daughter dance, or some others. A second bad thing is half of your guests like to hang out at the bar and these are generally the crazy fun crowd. Notice how your party is not as full as it could be and the more outgoing inebriates aren’t with the rest of the group. The way to fix this is to make your reception site will put a bar in the room. If you want, just have another bar in the foyer for overflow but having your main bar in the room will keep most of your guests there.
The newlyweds get pinned down in the foyer talking to the people who are leaving.
If the couple go to the restroom, on the way back, some of their crowd will inevitably catch them in the entrance way and want to embrace them and speak to them and sometimes wish them well and go . I know, using the restroom can be a 30 minute ordeal for the bride, and sometimes that’s how it goes. My suggestion is, if guests want to talk to you for a long period of time, have them follow you back in to the reception room and talk to you there. This way, your friends and family can see you haven’t bailed out for your honeymoon and you can’t wait to hit the dance floor.
The cake cutting.
Some planners or dee-jays will set up the cake cutting ceremony for late in the night. This will work if you’re having a uneventful party where no one will dance. If not, there are two problems with this. One, a lot of the crowd will already be gone so they don’t get a piece of your cake, leaving a lot of left over cake. Also, late in the night is when the dancing is usually going strong. You have to switch off the awesome beats and turn up the lights, thereby ruining any semblance of a party air. My idea is doing this event right after dinner is about to wrap up. Don’t worry. People don’t leave because of the cake cutting. They leave because of were the cake cutting is scheduled. Besides, who gets excited about this event?
The photographer decides to get artsy with the couple at an inopportune time.
If this takes place your wedding crowd may try to find where you are, believe you’ve left for your honeymoon, and use this as the perfect time to jump ship. Once in a while, the newlyweds may want to get sunset pictures or something of that nature. If that’s the situation by all means be sure to make your way back as soon as possible or sooner! If you can, it’s best to finish your all your shots during the hors d’oeuvres hour.
Remember, I’ve done weddings, parties and events where people have said that it was the most awesome reception they’ve experienced—and the dancing was nonexistent. Don’t think your party begins and ends on the dance floor. Direct your direction on getting your crowd into the wedding in fun and unique ways, and your wedding will turn out great. For the rest of these unknown party killers, go to my blog at get wedding insurance, and for more helpful information.
Monday, August 16, 2010
Thursday, May 27, 2010
From A Wedding DJ & Planner to a TV Host!
Becoming a TV host is my next career goal in life. This is going to be quite a challenge but I think I'm up to it! Here's how I came to the conclusion that this should be my next step.
First, I basically "host" an event just about every weekend. Standing up in front of hundreds of people, making announcements, making them laugh is de rigueur for me. I understand how to host and believe I should be able to slip right into this job.
First, I basically "host" an event just about every weekend. Standing up in front of hundreds of people, making announcements, making them laugh is de rigueur for me. I understand how to host and believe I should be able to slip right into this job.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
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Monday, February 22, 2010
8. Other Ceremony Events
There aren't very many other wedding songs needed unless you are having some other ceremony events for your ceremony. One of the most popular additions is having a special reading performed by a family member or friend. This is NOT the Minister, Pastor, or Rabbi mind you, but a special person who you've designated to read a particular passage that speaks to your and your soon-to-be spouse. Of course, you won't need wedding music if someone is doing a reading.
Some other events you can add to the actual ceremony performance are as follows:
Handfasting Ceremony: The expression "tying the knot" refers to the traditional early Celtic and later Scots and Welsh marriage ritual of handfasting. Though clearly pagan in origin, the symbolism of this ritual was so visually expressive and appealing that it even found its way into the liturgy of some factions of Catholicism practiced in Britain after the rise of Christianity.
The Uniting Of Families: If you have two families coming together, that is, the bride or groom or both have children from a previous marriage, it is important to include them in the ceremony. This will make them feel like they are a part of the union and not just an outsider. There are many ways to include the children, such as presenting them with a gift, having them be a part of the unity ceremony (candle, sand, tree, etc.), and even including them in the wedding vows. Some wedding songs may fit in during this part of the ceremony if the music is kept low and in the background.
Flowers to the Parents: Presenting the mothers with flowers is one more way to add a special and personal touch to your wedding ceremony. It is best if this is kept as a surprise for the mothers (and fathers, too, if you don't want them to spill the beans!) and the real emotions will show when the bride and groom walk down from the altar to present them with this special gift. Wedding songs are very important here since typically the minister isn't speaking. So choose something light, happy and loving for this part of the ceremony.
There are so many other ideas out there. Just do some research and you'll find the perfect special and unique event that you want to add to our ceremony. And if there are wedding songs involved, even better!
Some other events you can add to the actual ceremony performance are as follows:
Handfasting Ceremony: The expression "tying the knot" refers to the traditional early Celtic and later Scots and Welsh marriage ritual of handfasting. Though clearly pagan in origin, the symbolism of this ritual was so visually expressive and appealing that it even found its way into the liturgy of some factions of Catholicism practiced in Britain after the rise of Christianity.
The Uniting Of Families: If you have two families coming together, that is, the bride or groom or both have children from a previous marriage, it is important to include them in the ceremony. This will make them feel like they are a part of the union and not just an outsider. There are many ways to include the children, such as presenting them with a gift, having them be a part of the unity ceremony (candle, sand, tree, etc.), and even including them in the wedding vows. Some wedding songs may fit in during this part of the ceremony if the music is kept low and in the background.
Flowers to the Parents: Presenting the mothers with flowers is one more way to add a special and personal touch to your wedding ceremony. It is best if this is kept as a surprise for the mothers (and fathers, too, if you don't want them to spill the beans!) and the real emotions will show when the bride and groom walk down from the altar to present them with this special gift. Wedding songs are very important here since typically the minister isn't speaking. So choose something light, happy and loving for this part of the ceremony.
There are so many other ideas out there. Just do some research and you'll find the perfect special and unique event that you want to add to our ceremony. And if there are wedding songs involved, even better!
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
7. Live Song Performances
One of the greatest joys in picking your wedding songs is choosing which songs will be performed live! The beauty of picking these songs though, is that just about any love song or romantic ballad can fit the bill. It all comes down to your personal preference and what you what this song to represent.
Your first decision needs to be whether you want this wedding song to have religious significance. Whether you're Christian, Jewish, Catholic, or Wicca, there are songs out there for you. The best way to find these songs are to search for Christian wedding songs or Jewish wedding songs, etc. Many options will come up and you can check them out and review which ones will work for you.
If you'd prefer to stay with traditional contemporary songs, the options are unlimited. There are so many love songs out there to choose from, you can basically throw a dart and find something appropriate! then again, you might be a little picky, and that's all right...I'll go over how to pick this song, step by step.
Step one, choose your genre. You can find these wedding songs in Country, Classic Rock, Motown, Swing, Adult Contemporary, etc. If these categories are too broad for you, you might want to go straight to step two, which is choose your artist.
This might be an easier first step for you. Whenever people request a wedding song, they usually walk up with an artist in mind. So, if you love Jack Johnson, John Legend, and Rufus Wainwright, start with those artists and see what they have to offer. If you don;t find something you like, then move on to other artist that you enjoy listening to.
I hate to tell you this, but finding the song you want performed live at your wedding is actually the easy part. Now, you have to find the person to perform it! This can be a daunting task since you have probably only seen one or two live performances at a ceremony to begin with and the chances of those artists striking a positive chord with you are relatively low. If you do happen to see an incredible artist that you could picture performing at your wedding, by all means, get their card! But finding your performer may actually make life easier for you in the long run.
If you hire a performer, they may have a limited amount of songs to choose from, thereby making your choice a lot easier. of course, you may end up hiring a particular person or group based strictly on what they are capable of playing. Still, if you find an artist who's sound you truly love, don't be shy or afraid to ask them to learn your specific song. I'm a musician, to, and I can tell you, we love new challenges!
Another option is to find a friend who enjoys performing. this option is free (my favorite price!) and you can usually request for them to learn whatever wedding song you want. If you do choose a friend to perform, it is important to make sure you hear their version of your song well before the wedding day! You may not like how they sing it or play it. And if they really are a good friend, you will be able to tell them that you would like a few changes.
Finally, after you've chosen your wedding song and artist, you need to make sure you have quality sound equipment for amplification of the performer. You could have the most incredible singer and the perfect ballad picked out, but if the sound system is substandard, so goes the song! Many times, the performer will have their own gear that the prefer performing with. If not, you need to make sure either the church or location has a quality system and, if possible, clear it with your artist. One simple way to handle this issue is hire a top notch DJ to handle all your sound needs.
If you're having trouble choosing this song, you can go to wedding DJ playlist, where a lot of ideas can be found. Choosing your live performance of your wedding song may be a little work, but in the end, the special moment will be worth it!
Your first decision needs to be whether you want this wedding song to have religious significance. Whether you're Christian, Jewish, Catholic, or Wicca, there are songs out there for you. The best way to find these songs are to search for Christian wedding songs or Jewish wedding songs, etc. Many options will come up and you can check them out and review which ones will work for you.
If you'd prefer to stay with traditional contemporary songs, the options are unlimited. There are so many love songs out there to choose from, you can basically throw a dart and find something appropriate! then again, you might be a little picky, and that's all right...I'll go over how to pick this song, step by step.
Step one, choose your genre. You can find these wedding songs in Country, Classic Rock, Motown, Swing, Adult Contemporary, etc. If these categories are too broad for you, you might want to go straight to step two, which is choose your artist.
This might be an easier first step for you. Whenever people request a wedding song, they usually walk up with an artist in mind. So, if you love Jack Johnson, John Legend, and Rufus Wainwright, start with those artists and see what they have to offer. If you don;t find something you like, then move on to other artist that you enjoy listening to.
I hate to tell you this, but finding the song you want performed live at your wedding is actually the easy part. Now, you have to find the person to perform it! This can be a daunting task since you have probably only seen one or two live performances at a ceremony to begin with and the chances of those artists striking a positive chord with you are relatively low. If you do happen to see an incredible artist that you could picture performing at your wedding, by all means, get their card! But finding your performer may actually make life easier for you in the long run.
If you hire a performer, they may have a limited amount of songs to choose from, thereby making your choice a lot easier. of course, you may end up hiring a particular person or group based strictly on what they are capable of playing. Still, if you find an artist who's sound you truly love, don't be shy or afraid to ask them to learn your specific song. I'm a musician, to, and I can tell you, we love new challenges!
Another option is to find a friend who enjoys performing. this option is free (my favorite price!) and you can usually request for them to learn whatever wedding song you want. If you do choose a friend to perform, it is important to make sure you hear their version of your song well before the wedding day! You may not like how they sing it or play it. And if they really are a good friend, you will be able to tell them that you would like a few changes.
Finally, after you've chosen your wedding song and artist, you need to make sure you have quality sound equipment for amplification of the performer. You could have the most incredible singer and the perfect ballad picked out, but if the sound system is substandard, so goes the song! Many times, the performer will have their own gear that the prefer performing with. If not, you need to make sure either the church or location has a quality system and, if possible, clear it with your artist. One simple way to handle this issue is hire a top notch DJ to handle all your sound needs.
If you're having trouble choosing this song, you can go to wedding DJ playlist, where a lot of ideas can be found. Choosing your live performance of your wedding song may be a little work, but in the end, the special moment will be worth it!
Wednesday, January 27, 2010
Wedding DJ playlist for open dancing!
Here is a great set list for a wedding DJ playlist. As you can see, we begin with some good danceable Motown. Groove Me is a great crossover song into disco...it's Motown yet funky! WE then transition from disco into Top 40. From there we can cross mix into 80's alternative. Then we do a couple of Old School 80's tunes, then into 90's rap (so fun!) and close it out with the bouncy Venga Boys. Here we have a hard jump back into oldies, but we move into the classics, since everyone is ready to go nuts (thank you , bartender)! We end the set with Shout. At the end of this wedding DJ playlist, people were simply worn out and ready to lay down and take a nap! Talk about a workout.
I want you back
Respect Aretha franklin
Groove me King floyd
Boogie shoes Kc & the sunshine band
Funkytown Lipps, inc.
September Earth, wind & fire
Blame it (warning content) Jamie foxx f t-pain
Yeah (clean)warning Usher f ludacris & lil jon
Way i are Timbaland f keri hilson
New sensation Inxs
Anything, anything (i'll give you) Dramarama
Blister in the sun Violent femmes
You dropped a bomb on me Gap band
Super freak Rick james
Baby got back Sir mix-a-lot
Whoomp! (there it is) Tag team
Tootsie roll 69 boyz
We like to party! Vengaboys
Brown eyed girl Van morrison
Twist & shout Beatles
Shout Animal house soundtrack
This is, of course, just a sample, but it covers a huge array of genres and eras. It is probably about an hour to an hour and a half long (depending on when the DJ mixes out of each song) and has such a wide variety, you're sure to please just about everybody within this time. Dont' forget, if you've seen a bigger response on the dance floor for a certain style of music,get back to that genre as fast as you can. And, likewise, if you got NO dancing to a certain genre, don't bother playing the other songs on the list in that style. Get right into the next set. Have fun and remember, your wedding DJ playlist is not set in stone!
6. Wedding Songs for your Unity Candle/Event
Choosing the wedding songs for the unity candle, which is a ceremonial activity symbolizing the union of two people becoming one, is a very simple task. I'll get to how to pick this music in a moment. First, I want to go over the various types of unity candle/events available for you to choose from.
With the standard unity candle, the bride and groom each take a lit tapered candle and touch the flame to the wick of the center candle. Then these candles are placed back in their holders. Some wedding planners suggest blowing out the individual tapers, but I prefer to leave them lit, since they represent the bride and groom's individuality (you're still a unique person even though you're getting married, right?). Also, if you are a christian, the three lit candles are a nice representation of the Trinity.
One of the main questions that comes up is, how do the individual tapers get lit? You know, the actual candles that the bride and groom pick up and light the center candle with? I usually suggest these get lit by the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride. Right before the start of the ceremony processionals, the mothers can walk up together and light the individual tapers. It's best not to use a click lighter either! Tacky! Instead, have a smaller candle already lit nearby, and the mothers can light the tapers off of that candle. Nice, huh?
Here are some other unity events to consider.
The Unity Sand: similar to the candle idea, there are two small glass vases filled with two different colored sands. At the appropriate time, the bride and groom pour the sand from these small glass vases into a larger vase, creating a unique sand piece for their fireplace mantle. the sands can represent whatever they want; the minutes in their lives, now poured together as one, etc.
The Unity Tree: For you botanists, tree-huggers, or avid outdoors types, this event involves having a potted plant or tree somewhere near the altar. The bride and groom each take a nice spade and scoop up some loose earth (obviously from another container) and they pour the earth over the roots of the tree. This tree is then planted at their home and becomes their wedding tree.
The Unity Wine: One of my favorites. Take two different wines and have the bottles up at the altar. the bride and groom pour a little wine from each bottle into a glass, thereby creating a completely new and unique vintage. They each take a sip from this glass and thereby begins the party! Just kidding. This new wine is now uniquely theirs, just as their marriage will be.
So, there you have the unity events. But, what about wedding songs, you ask? Simple. Any love song or ballad will work well with these events. Feel free to research love songs that might pair up with wine, trees, or fire.
This is also a great opportunity to have someone perform the song live. I suggest this because these events usually take anywhere from one to two minutes at most, so much of the song is cut off anyway. Having a performer brings the entire event to life and gives you a reason to hear the whole song, in it's entirety.
Good luck in choosing your wedding songs for your unity event, whatever it may be!
With the standard unity candle, the bride and groom each take a lit tapered candle and touch the flame to the wick of the center candle. Then these candles are placed back in their holders. Some wedding planners suggest blowing out the individual tapers, but I prefer to leave them lit, since they represent the bride and groom's individuality (you're still a unique person even though you're getting married, right?). Also, if you are a christian, the three lit candles are a nice representation of the Trinity.
One of the main questions that comes up is, how do the individual tapers get lit? You know, the actual candles that the bride and groom pick up and light the center candle with? I usually suggest these get lit by the mother of the groom and the mother of the bride. Right before the start of the ceremony processionals, the mothers can walk up together and light the individual tapers. It's best not to use a click lighter either! Tacky! Instead, have a smaller candle already lit nearby, and the mothers can light the tapers off of that candle. Nice, huh?
Here are some other unity events to consider.
The Unity Sand: similar to the candle idea, there are two small glass vases filled with two different colored sands. At the appropriate time, the bride and groom pour the sand from these small glass vases into a larger vase, creating a unique sand piece for their fireplace mantle. the sands can represent whatever they want; the minutes in their lives, now poured together as one, etc.
The Unity Tree: For you botanists, tree-huggers, or avid outdoors types, this event involves having a potted plant or tree somewhere near the altar. The bride and groom each take a nice spade and scoop up some loose earth (obviously from another container) and they pour the earth over the roots of the tree. This tree is then planted at their home and becomes their wedding tree.
The Unity Wine: One of my favorites. Take two different wines and have the bottles up at the altar. the bride and groom pour a little wine from each bottle into a glass, thereby creating a completely new and unique vintage. They each take a sip from this glass and thereby begins the party! Just kidding. This new wine is now uniquely theirs, just as their marriage will be.
So, there you have the unity events. But, what about wedding songs, you ask? Simple. Any love song or ballad will work well with these events. Feel free to research love songs that might pair up with wine, trees, or fire.
This is also a great opportunity to have someone perform the song live. I suggest this because these events usually take anywhere from one to two minutes at most, so much of the song is cut off anyway. Having a performer brings the entire event to life and gives you a reason to hear the whole song, in it's entirety.
Good luck in choosing your wedding songs for your unity event, whatever it may be!
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Wedding DJ Playlist Article
Here's an excellent article on picking open dance music for your DJ to play:
The #1 Rule For Your Wedding DJ Playlist
Whenever soon-to-be married couples work on their Wedding DJ Playlist they usually don't take into consideration the golden rule in building that list of wedding songs. The first rule of the playlist is...you do not talk about the playlist! I'm kidding, but many couples actually have that attitude and are afraid to tell their DJ what and how to play their sets of music. Don't make this mistake. Some (not all) DJ's have a set show for every single wedding they perform at, but that won't work for every crowd because every crowd is different! You don't want the DJ playing Hip Hop and rap music if the crowd is mostly your parent's age. You can play some hip hop but you need to make sure the DJ is following the #1 rule.
So, here it is...The number one rule for your wedding DJ playlist: Only play 3 songs from the same genre in a row. That's it! That is the FIRST rule when building your music playlist for dancing.
I know, it sounds too simple but it is what will make or break your dance floor! If your DJ is playing more than 3 songs in a row of a certain style, the guests who dislike that style will start to wonder if the rest of the night will be all that kind of music. 3 songs come out to about 10 to 12 minutes of music, which is a good length of time for a dancing set. Then the music switches up and those who were dancing go get a drink and rest up while those who like the new style crash the floor. then again, sometimes people just never leave the danced floor at all and that would be awesome!
Now I'm not saying to go from Reggae to Death Metal! If your DJ is talented, he can make the transitions smooth. For instance, the DJ can start of with Motown for a few, then come in with some disco, then mix into some top 40 dance. There's about 30 to 40 minutes of straight up dance music. You can move on to some classic rock from there or, since it is a wedding, hit your peeps up with a slow ballad. I'll go over some great song transitions and playlists in future posts, so stay tuned for that.
As always, there is an exception to this rule. You can get away with playing 5 or 6 songs from the same genre if your DJ mixes out of each song early. And I mean 2 minutes into the song. As you can see, it's more about the amount of time your guests are subjected to a certain style of music, which is about 10 to 12 minutes. If you go over that time, you will run into problems and you will most likely have guests heading out the door early. Don't believe me? Have your DJ play the best top 40 dance songs for 40 minutes and watch half of your guests run out the door!
So, again, here it is: Only play 3 songs from the same genre in a row. Don't forget this rule, the golden rule, the first rule in building your wedding DJ playlist for you and your guests.
The #1 Rule For Your Wedding DJ Playlist
Whenever soon-to-be married couples work on their Wedding DJ Playlist they usually don't take into consideration the golden rule in building that list of wedding songs. The first rule of the playlist is...you do not talk about the playlist! I'm kidding, but many couples actually have that attitude and are afraid to tell their DJ what and how to play their sets of music. Don't make this mistake. Some (not all) DJ's have a set show for every single wedding they perform at, but that won't work for every crowd because every crowd is different! You don't want the DJ playing Hip Hop and rap music if the crowd is mostly your parent's age. You can play some hip hop but you need to make sure the DJ is following the #1 rule.
So, here it is...The number one rule for your wedding DJ playlist: Only play 3 songs from the same genre in a row. That's it! That is the FIRST rule when building your music playlist for dancing.
I know, it sounds too simple but it is what will make or break your dance floor! If your DJ is playing more than 3 songs in a row of a certain style, the guests who dislike that style will start to wonder if the rest of the night will be all that kind of music. 3 songs come out to about 10 to 12 minutes of music, which is a good length of time for a dancing set. Then the music switches up and those who were dancing go get a drink and rest up while those who like the new style crash the floor. then again, sometimes people just never leave the danced floor at all and that would be awesome!
Now I'm not saying to go from Reggae to Death Metal! If your DJ is talented, he can make the transitions smooth. For instance, the DJ can start of with Motown for a few, then come in with some disco, then mix into some top 40 dance. There's about 30 to 40 minutes of straight up dance music. You can move on to some classic rock from there or, since it is a wedding, hit your peeps up with a slow ballad. I'll go over some great song transitions and playlists in future posts, so stay tuned for that.
As always, there is an exception to this rule. You can get away with playing 5 or 6 songs from the same genre if your DJ mixes out of each song early. And I mean 2 minutes into the song. As you can see, it's more about the amount of time your guests are subjected to a certain style of music, which is about 10 to 12 minutes. If you go over that time, you will run into problems and you will most likely have guests heading out the door early. Don't believe me? Have your DJ play the best top 40 dance songs for 40 minutes and watch half of your guests run out the door!
So, again, here it is: Only play 3 songs from the same genre in a row. Don't forget this rule, the golden rule, the first rule in building your wedding DJ playlist for you and your guests.
Thursday, January 14, 2010
5. Wedding Songs For Your Ceremony
We've covered getting you and all of your wedding party up to the altar. Later, we will look at wedding songs to get you AWAY from the altar (the Recessional). But, for now we're going to look at what the actual ceremony is and how wedding songs and music can be a part of it. the ceremony is where the Pastor, Minister, Priest, Rabbi, Officiant, Elder (does this list ever end?!?) performs all of the ceremonial avocations which includes various uses of verbiage and symbolism. At the end of this article, I will list a standard ceremony outline. And if you got a copy of my Wedding Music Timeline Planner audiobook, you'll get samples of verbiage for each ceremony event.
Fitting music in during the ceremony (besides the upcoming Unity Candle/Event and the Live Music Performances) isn't necessary or terribly important. Usually, the Minister will be speaking the entire time and there is no need to "fill" empty space with song. But, if you simply LOVE music and want to squeeze in as much as you can, there are ways to add wedding songs during your ceremony.
One way to add music is to play a prerecorded song that is special to you, the soon-to-be-married couple! It may be the first song you ever listened to together or one that has lyrics that uncanningly speaks of your relationship. Another way is to have light (very light) background instrumental music played while the Minister is performing the ceremony. I would suggest not playing music the entire length of the ceremony, as this could become overbearing to the point of irritation for you and your wedding guests. You can bring up some beautiful music as you repeat your vows to each other or as you exchange roses or as you give a rose to each of the mothers and/or grandmothers. Just be sure to inform your Minister that this will be happening so he isn't surprised. It will show!
My suggestion here is to let the ceremony speak for itself, only highlighting special sections with light background instrumental music. The best ways to add wedding songs to the ceremony section, would be through the Unity Candle/Event and the Live Song Performance, which we'll review in our next post. Here's a standard ceremony outline:
1. Opening Remarks - "The Call to Worship"
Thanks again for reading and learning here at Wedding Songs and Music Ideas!
Fitting music in during the ceremony (besides the upcoming Unity Candle/Event and the Live Music Performances) isn't necessary or terribly important. Usually, the Minister will be speaking the entire time and there is no need to "fill" empty space with song. But, if you simply LOVE music and want to squeeze in as much as you can, there are ways to add wedding songs during your ceremony.
One way to add music is to play a prerecorded song that is special to you, the soon-to-be-married couple! It may be the first song you ever listened to together or one that has lyrics that uncanningly speaks of your relationship. Another way is to have light (very light) background instrumental music played while the Minister is performing the ceremony. I would suggest not playing music the entire length of the ceremony, as this could become overbearing to the point of irritation for you and your wedding guests. You can bring up some beautiful music as you repeat your vows to each other or as you exchange roses or as you give a rose to each of the mothers and/or grandmothers. Just be sure to inform your Minister that this will be happening so he isn't surprised. It will show!
My suggestion here is to let the ceremony speak for itself, only highlighting special sections with light background instrumental music. The best ways to add wedding songs to the ceremony section, would be through the Unity Candle/Event and the Live Song Performance, which we'll review in our next post. Here's a standard ceremony outline:
1. Opening Remarks - "The Call to Worship"
Thanks again for reading and learning here at Wedding Songs and Music Ideas!
Saturday, January 9, 2010
4. Wedding Songs For The Bridal March
"Here Comes The Bride..."
Everyone in the world is familiar with this wedding song. Most of us picture the good old pipe organ blasting it out and the bride, covered head to toe in white, appearing in the doorway of the church. She is then escorted down the isle by her father.
Well, times are a' changin'! Most brides I talk to nowadays tell me when they hear that pipe organ, they think of a funeral! You certainly don't want to start off married life with that thought in your or anyone's mind!
The wedding song in question is called the Bridal Chorus from Wagner's opera Lohengrin. It has also been called Here Comes The Bride, The Bridal March, and The Wedding March. Don't confuse this song with The Wedding March by Felix Mendelssohn. This is traditionally used as a Recessional at the end of a wedding. If you listen to samples of the songs, you'll understand what I'm talking about.
As mentioned earlier, the pipe organ has always been the traditional way to go, but if you search the internet, you'll find many different versions of this song. Whether you like piano, guitar, harp, string quartets, or even bagpipes, there's a version out there for everyone. It may take you some extra time to find the version of this wedding song that works perfectly for you. It is one of the most important moments of your wedding day so be sure to do some research and find the version that makes our heart melt.
Another option would be to choose a processional song from the list of standard processionals. If you're "over" the Bridal March, any of those other processional songs would work well. And just like the previous processionals, don't be afraid to walk down the isle to a modern song. You're not just stuck in classical-land here. Songs like Waiting On An Angel by Ben Harper, I've finally Found Someone by Streisand and Adams, and From This Moment by Shania are great choices. Be sure to listen to newer love songs and see if one fits with your style and personality.
Another very important point to consider is this: This is (usually) the first time the groom will be seeing his beautiful bride on their wedding day. Be sure to consider his feelings when choosing this song. The bride may love a particular piece of music, but for the groom, the song reminds him of a bad experience in his life, a death in the family, or even worse, an old girlfriend! Then again, if he suggests you walk down the isle to You Shook Me All Night Long by AC/DC, you're headed for trouble!
Once again, the bride's entrance to the ceremony is an incredible, emotionally charged moment for everyone, so be sure you pick the wedding song that will stay in your memory and heart forever.
Everyone in the world is familiar with this wedding song. Most of us picture the good old pipe organ blasting it out and the bride, covered head to toe in white, appearing in the doorway of the church. She is then escorted down the isle by her father.
Well, times are a' changin'! Most brides I talk to nowadays tell me when they hear that pipe organ, they think of a funeral! You certainly don't want to start off married life with that thought in your or anyone's mind!
The wedding song in question is called the Bridal Chorus from Wagner's opera Lohengrin. It has also been called Here Comes The Bride, The Bridal March, and The Wedding March. Don't confuse this song with The Wedding March by Felix Mendelssohn. This is traditionally used as a Recessional at the end of a wedding. If you listen to samples of the songs, you'll understand what I'm talking about.
As mentioned earlier, the pipe organ has always been the traditional way to go, but if you search the internet, you'll find many different versions of this song. Whether you like piano, guitar, harp, string quartets, or even bagpipes, there's a version out there for everyone. It may take you some extra time to find the version of this wedding song that works perfectly for you. It is one of the most important moments of your wedding day so be sure to do some research and find the version that makes our heart melt.
Another option would be to choose a processional song from the list of standard processionals. If you're "over" the Bridal March, any of those other processional songs would work well. And just like the previous processionals, don't be afraid to walk down the isle to a modern song. You're not just stuck in classical-land here. Songs like Waiting On An Angel by Ben Harper, I've finally Found Someone by Streisand and Adams, and From This Moment by Shania are great choices. Be sure to listen to newer love songs and see if one fits with your style and personality.
Another very important point to consider is this: This is (usually) the first time the groom will be seeing his beautiful bride on their wedding day. Be sure to consider his feelings when choosing this song. The bride may love a particular piece of music, but for the groom, the song reminds him of a bad experience in his life, a death in the family, or even worse, an old girlfriend! Then again, if he suggests you walk down the isle to You Shook Me All Night Long by AC/DC, you're headed for trouble!
Once again, the bride's entrance to the ceremony is an incredible, emotionally charged moment for everyone, so be sure you pick the wedding song that will stay in your memory and heart forever.
Thursday, January 7, 2010
3. Wedding Songs For The Second Processional
Now we're going to focus on the wedding song for your Second Processional. By now you've chosen your First Processional, or your parent's processional. Now, you have a few choices to make. Do you want the minister, groom, and groomsmen to walk to the altar/ceremony gazebo, etc. together (usually not down the isle, but from the audiences right side) or would you prefer the minister, groom, and best man come in first (also entering from the right side) and have the bridesmaids escorted down the center isle by the remaining groomsmen? Your decision here will impact the next song selection, because you will either have both guys and gals walking down the isle, or just the gals. If it is just the bridesmaids, you can feel free to get a little "girly" with your wedding song choice if you want! Now, let's move on.
Your Second Processional, or bridesmaid's processional is very similar to your first processional. It's usually a classical or contemporary piece, but with a twist. Since you're dealing with younger people, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, they are typically less offended. This opens up the door to have a little fun, if you so choose! Many of the suggestions made earlier also apply to this song, but going with a contemporary or new song would work even better here. Songs like Amazed by Lonestar, Somewhere Over The Rainbow by Isreal Kamakawiwo'ole, and Fairy Tales by Enya have been used by some of my clients. Notice these are still slow and romantic, but, this is your wedding so do whatever you want! For instance, if you want to really go crazy, you're bridesmaids can walk down to Chapel of Love, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun, or even Beyonce's Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)!
Finally all of this may be a moot point, and here's why: If you only have a few parents walking down to the First Processional, you might not need a different wedding song for your Second Processional. You may only need 20 seconds of music for your parents to make it down the isle, and it would seem quite odd to cut off that first song! this may make your life easier, because now you'd be able to combine your First and Second Processionals into one. Choosing one song may be your only option here.
Again, to find different versions of the same song performed by different artists, do a search for songs you like and leave the artist blank. And again, don't forget movie soundtracks!
For those of you who purchased my Wedding Timeline Planner, you'll have an easier time by going through the Song Suggestions List and searching those on iTunes or Amazon.
Good luck and thanks for stopping by Wedding Songs and Music Ideas!
Your Second Processional, or bridesmaid's processional is very similar to your first processional. It's usually a classical or contemporary piece, but with a twist. Since you're dealing with younger people, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, they are typically less offended. This opens up the door to have a little fun, if you so choose! Many of the suggestions made earlier also apply to this song, but going with a contemporary or new song would work even better here. Songs like Amazed by Lonestar, Somewhere Over The Rainbow by Isreal Kamakawiwo'ole, and Fairy Tales by Enya have been used by some of my clients. Notice these are still slow and romantic, but, this is your wedding so do whatever you want! For instance, if you want to really go crazy, you're bridesmaids can walk down to Chapel of Love, Girls Just Wanna Have Fun, or even Beyonce's Single Ladies (Put A Ring On It)!
Finally all of this may be a moot point, and here's why: If you only have a few parents walking down to the First Processional, you might not need a different wedding song for your Second Processional. You may only need 20 seconds of music for your parents to make it down the isle, and it would seem quite odd to cut off that first song! this may make your life easier, because now you'd be able to combine your First and Second Processionals into one. Choosing one song may be your only option here.
Again, to find different versions of the same song performed by different artists, do a search for songs you like and leave the artist blank. And again, don't forget movie soundtracks!
For those of you who purchased my Wedding Timeline Planner, you'll have an easier time by going through the Song Suggestions List and searching those on iTunes or Amazon.
Good luck and thanks for stopping by Wedding Songs and Music Ideas!
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
2. Wedding Songs For Your First Processional
Choosing the right wedding songs for your processional should be a simple process. The problem is most people don't have any idea what songs fit in this particular ceremony event. I’ll first review what the processional is and how to plan it then go over music ideas for you. I will include a list of traditional (and non-traditional) First Processionals at the end of this article.
First, here’s a brief description of the processional. This is where the parents and any other special people (aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, etc.) are honored by having them walk down the isle. They can be escorted by an usher or groomsman or they can process as a couple. The groom’s parents, for instance, could walk down as a couple if still married. Don't go too crazy and include everybody in the processional (like your 3rd cousin, twice removed). It should be reserved for the most important people in your life. I’ll go over the entrance order in reverse. The last person down the isle would be the bride’s mom. Before her, would be the groom’s mom. And before her would be the bride’s grandparents, then the groom’s grandparents. Any other special people would come before the grandparents. Notice how the most important, the more special the person is, the later they walk down the isle? I know, it seems backward, but it’s like a movie. The most important stuff happens at the end! Start with your close special people, then the groom’s grandparents, then the bride’s grandparents, then the groom’s parent’s, then, finally, the bride’s mom finishes the first processional. She won’t be escorted by the bride’s father, as he will be walking the bride down the isle. The bride’s mom can be escorted by her son (I know, you can say “awwww!) or any other person she’d prefer. This is the First Processional, or the Processional for the Parents. What follows is the Second Processional, or the Processional for the Bridesmaids. Finally, the Third Processional, or the Bride's Processional follows next. We'll cover those processionals next time.
The wedding song you choose for your parent’s processional can range from classical to contemporary and should reflect your style and/or your parent's sensibilities. Some traditional songs are Air On A G String by Bach, Greensleeves, and of course, the ever-popular, much overused Canon in D Major by Pachelbel. Now, if you've always pictured your family walking down to an over-played wedding song, that's fine. There are so many different versions of these songs available, you can always find one that has a new, unique feel to it. I currently have 16 different versions of Canon in D in my music library! Another way to go is using contemporary songs, such as Con Ti Partiro by Andrea Bocelli (or by anyone else, for that matter) or even a Josh Groban song. If you’d prefer no vocals, many times you can find instrumental versions of these songs that will work well. I’ve even had some clients have tons of fun with this, the very start of their wedding day, by playing a fun, over-the-top song like Chapel of Love by the Dixie Cups.
First, here’s a brief description of the processional. This is where the parents and any other special people (aunts, uncles, brothers, sisters, etc.) are honored by having them walk down the isle. They can be escorted by an usher or groomsman or they can process as a couple. The groom’s parents, for instance, could walk down as a couple if still married. Don't go too crazy and include everybody in the processional (like your 3rd cousin, twice removed). It should be reserved for the most important people in your life. I’ll go over the entrance order in reverse. The last person down the isle would be the bride’s mom. Before her, would be the groom’s mom. And before her would be the bride’s grandparents, then the groom’s grandparents. Any other special people would come before the grandparents. Notice how the most important, the more special the person is, the later they walk down the isle? I know, it seems backward, but it’s like a movie. The most important stuff happens at the end! Start with your close special people, then the groom’s grandparents, then the bride’s grandparents, then the groom’s parent’s, then, finally, the bride’s mom finishes the first processional. She won’t be escorted by the bride’s father, as he will be walking the bride down the isle. The bride’s mom can be escorted by her son (I know, you can say “awwww!) or any other person she’d prefer. This is the First Processional, or the Processional for the Parents. What follows is the Second Processional, or the Processional for the Bridesmaids. Finally, the Third Processional, or the Bride's Processional follows next. We'll cover those processionals next time.
The wedding song you choose for your parent’s processional can range from classical to contemporary and should reflect your style and/or your parent's sensibilities. Some traditional songs are Air On A G String by Bach, Greensleeves, and of course, the ever-popular, much overused Canon in D Major by Pachelbel. Now, if you've always pictured your family walking down to an over-played wedding song, that's fine. There are so many different versions of these songs available, you can always find one that has a new, unique feel to it. I currently have 16 different versions of Canon in D in my music library! Another way to go is using contemporary songs, such as Con Ti Partiro by Andrea Bocelli (or by anyone else, for that matter) or even a Josh Groban song. If you’d prefer no vocals, many times you can find instrumental versions of these songs that will work well. I’ve even had some clients have tons of fun with this, the very start of their wedding day, by playing a fun, over-the-top song like Chapel of Love by the Dixie Cups.
Air – Handel
Air on a G String – Bach
Ave Maria – Pavarotti
Canon In D Major – Pachelbel
Con Ti Partiro (the Bellagio song) – Bocelli
Flower Duet – Traditional
Greensleeves – Traditional
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring – Bach
Minuet – Mozart
My Heart Will Go On (Piano) – Christopher Peacock
Ode To Joy – Beethoven
Prelude No. 1 In C Major – Bach
Sheep May Safely Graze – Bach
Siciliano – Bach
The Wedding Song – Petula Clark
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
1. Wedding Songs For Your Ceremony Background Music
When guests arrive for your wedding ceremony, they should be greeted by a beautiful setting, a comfortable atmosphere, and appropriate wedding background music. These songs are heard before the official start of the ceremony, which is usually keyed by the first processional, or the parents processional (which will be covered later here at Wedding Songs and Music Ideas). Of course, Metallica and the Black Eyed Peas are probably not what you want to play here, but that doesn't mean you have to use music that will put your guests to sleep!
A lot of people will go the classical route, playing string quartet or trio music from artists such as Bach, Brahams, and the like. Another typical route would be piano, guitar, or some other solo instrument playing the same. If this is what you have always dreamed of hearing before the start of your wedding, then go for it. Many couples use classical for their ceremony music or have that solo instrument playing classical. These are fine, but in today's wedding arena, people are spreading their wings and branching out!
I recently had a string quartet playing love song arrangements from the Beatles, Journey, and Dave Matthews. of course, they needed to get the sheet music for these songs, but they did so for free, as an investment for their group. There's also modern pianists, like Steve Siu, who recently put out his versions of contemporary songs from Toni Braxton, Josh Groban, and even Coldplay! There is an electric harpist named Hillary Stagg that has some great pre-ceremony music on CD or on iTunes. Another popular artist is Enya. I know, seems a little too early 90's but she's always putting out new stuff that works great for before the ceremony.
Finally, picking love songs, old or new, works well if kept at the appropriate level. Just about every artist on the planet has recorded a love song so it shouldn't be too hard to find the 5 to 10 artists that work for you. Give your list of 20 songs to your DJ or put them on a disc and you're ready to go.
The wedding songs you pick for before the ceremony should reflect your music ideas, style and taste. Don't be afraid to express yourself. It is, after all your wedding. Choose your wedding songs. Your music ideas. Be yourself and your guests will love you for that!
A lot of people will go the classical route, playing string quartet or trio music from artists such as Bach, Brahams, and the like. Another typical route would be piano, guitar, or some other solo instrument playing the same. If this is what you have always dreamed of hearing before the start of your wedding, then go for it. Many couples use classical for their ceremony music or have that solo instrument playing classical. These are fine, but in today's wedding arena, people are spreading their wings and branching out!
I recently had a string quartet playing love song arrangements from the Beatles, Journey, and Dave Matthews. of course, they needed to get the sheet music for these songs, but they did so for free, as an investment for their group. There's also modern pianists, like Steve Siu, who recently put out his versions of contemporary songs from Toni Braxton, Josh Groban, and even Coldplay! There is an electric harpist named Hillary Stagg that has some great pre-ceremony music on CD or on iTunes. Another popular artist is Enya. I know, seems a little too early 90's but she's always putting out new stuff that works great for before the ceremony.
Finally, picking love songs, old or new, works well if kept at the appropriate level. Just about every artist on the planet has recorded a love song so it shouldn't be too hard to find the 5 to 10 artists that work for you. Give your list of 20 songs to your DJ or put them on a disc and you're ready to go.
The wedding songs you pick for before the ceremony should reflect your music ideas, style and taste. Don't be afraid to express yourself. It is, after all your wedding. Choose your wedding songs. Your music ideas. Be yourself and your guests will love you for that!
Wedding Songs and Music Ideas and Wedding Planning
Welcome to Wedding Songs and Music Ideas and Wedding Planning!
This site provides song suggestions for brides and grooms planning weddings along with great music ideas and fun advice for the soon-to-be newlyweds. Songs for your ceremony, processional, recessional, unity candle, bridal march, reception, grand entrance, first dance, father daughter dance, mother son dance, parents dance, wedding party dance, bouquet toss, garter toss, money dance, dollar dance, last dance, cocktail hour, dinner music and more will be covered here. If you have any questions or any ideas for articles you'd like to see covered, please email me--I'm here to help you!
Once again, welcome to Wedding Songs and Music Ideas and Wedding Planning and thank you for visiting!
This site provides song suggestions for brides and grooms planning weddings along with great music ideas and fun advice for the soon-to-be newlyweds. Songs for your ceremony, processional, recessional, unity candle, bridal march, reception, grand entrance, first dance, father daughter dance, mother son dance, parents dance, wedding party dance, bouquet toss, garter toss, money dance, dollar dance, last dance, cocktail hour, dinner music and more will be covered here. If you have any questions or any ideas for articles you'd like to see covered, please email me--I'm here to help you!
Once again, welcome to Wedding Songs and Music Ideas and Wedding Planning and thank you for visiting!
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